How to Change Limiting Beliefs

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

How to Get Out of Your Own Way

Most of the time we are our greatest enemy. From childhood on we are literally scripted like a program by things that were said to us by our parents, other close relatives, teachers or friends. Experiences that happen to us also are stored in our memory and our brain is making conclusions about what we can do and more importantly, what we can’t or shouldn’t.

This way of experiencing reality results in a set of rules that become our belief-structure and therefore our mirror of “reality” and as an important part of it our own identity. But this reality isn’t a fixed thing, it is an image, a perspective we have in our minds. If it comes to our own self these beliefs can be supporting for us, or limiting.

It is very important to realize, that these beliefs are not reality. Reality is a relative construct. Beliefs are thoughts in our head that have formed an image of the world, that we work with. But it is not reality.

You may not even be aware of such self-limiting beliefs, but certainly they are there inside. Even if you made a lot of personal progress in working on yourself, there are a lot of areas were limiting beliefs are holding you back.

Beliefs Are Not Reality

For instance the belief that the earth is flat was a belief of that many people were certain about. Also that the earth is the center of the universe was a belief that was “reality” and people lived by it, until there came Galileo Galilei in 1610.

Let’s look at some areas, where limiting beliefs are common, for instance about money. Have you ever heard “The rich get richer and the poor stay poor.” Or a more subtle belief is “Money is not important” or “you have to work extremely hard to achieve financial success” or even worse “Money is not for me.”

In the area of the mind there may be the belief “I am not intelligent or smart enough.” or “I am a pure logical type and can’t show my emotions”.
On the social level maybe there are beliefs like “I am not good with people.” Or “I am not attractive to the opposite sex.”
Or such general beliefs like “I am too old.” or the opposite “I am too young.” And my all time favourite: “I don’t have enough time.”
Even if you can’t   yourself in these beliefs, there may be other rules, that you are holding true for you but which are not supporting your true nature.

Beliefs Are Co-Creating Your Reality

If such rules are working deep in our subconscious mind, are even held for the reality, these limiting beliefs are constantly influencing and distorting our possibilities and lifes. If you can become aware of these and identify them, you are able to change them, and by that, change your reality for the better.

One very true statement from the very successful Life-Coach Anthony Robbins I recall is “The past does not equal the future, unless you live there.” This says that in a way we are constantly acting as the fortune-teller for our own life. If we live by limiting beliefs formed in the past, conscious or subconscious, we are doomed to repeat the results of the past over and over and thereby reaffirming these stupid belief-structures.

The importing thing is to have empowering beliefs, so that we are supporting ourselves instead of standing in our own way.

How to Change Limiting to Empowering Beliefs:

The first step is to become aware of the limiting beliefs we have. To make this easier I suggest thinking and discovering the limiting beliefs in the following areas:

Write down the most limiting belief you have about:

1. About money:

_______________________

2. About romantic relationships:

_______________________

3. About success:

_______________________

4. About my dream:

_______________________

5. About myself: I am …

_______________________

5 Steps to Change Limiting Beliefs Right Now:

Now you will take these 5 limiting beliefs and turn them into beliefs that empower you. Then you will “install” that new belief, until it has replaced the limiting belief.

As an example, if you wrote above: “Money is not important” you could write down as a new belief: “Money flows to me naturally by my service to others”.

Taking the 5 beliefs above, what are the beliefs that empower you now:

1. About money:

_______________________

2. About romantic relationships:

_______________________

3. About success:

_______________________

4. About my dream:

_______________________

5. About myself: I am …

_______________________

Source: http://www.myrkothum.com/how-to-change-self-limiting-beliefs/

Visualization Tools

Cultivating effective visualization skills is one of the best laws to make the Law of Attraction a more powerful tool in your daily life. Broadly speaking, the process of visualization involves creating images (both mentally and physically) that convey a strong, positive message. However, there are many different ways to approaches visualization. Here are some of the most inspiring methods and techniques to add to your toolkit and generate a momentum of abundance.

Dream Boards

A dream board is a way of visually representing your aims—whether they’re financial, romantic, spiritual, or something else entirely. An inexpensive and maximally creative way of connecting with your hopes for the future, these boards can be made using everything from natural objects to drawings and magazine cutouts. Our free Law of Attraction tool kit will teach you more about how to create the ideal dream board that helps you meet your objectives and explain how you can use that board to transform your life.

Visual Affirmations

An affirmation is a simple statement that reshapes your beliefs and helps you move towards your life goals. You can tailor affirmations to reflect anything you want, but common and widely applicable ideas include affirmations like “I will be positive, happy and magnetic today” and “I am confident, capable and I can get everything I want.” While there is much to be said for contemplating affirmations, it’s important to take the further practical step of making these affirmations concrete. For example:

• Put your affirmations on signs and put them where they can be seen. It may be a particularly good idea to stick them in areas connected with your goals (such as on the mirror if you’re trying to reshape your self-image, or on the front door if you’re working towards career advancement).

• Set up smartphone reminders so that your affirmations regularly appear to you throughout the idea. You might try setting one to appear along with your morning alarm, or time the affirmations to that they are on your screen during your commute, lunch break or just before bed.

• Repeatedly write out your affirmations at the beginning or end of the day. Writing them down 5-10 times has a similar influence on your subconscious to speaking affirmations aloud. Make sure to write them slowly and carefully, preferably using a pen that feels comfortable and good in your hand.

Positive Lists

Law of Attraction experts often note that underlying negativity and uncontrollable chatter in the mind is one of the major things holding people back from accomplishing their goals. Often, this negativity will be self-directed, so using a visualization tool linked to personal value can be extremely useful reshaping your self-esteem. One method requires simply writing a list of the ten things you like most about yourself, and sticking that up on your wall to look at when you get ready for your day. Reflecting on the reasons to feel good about who you are enhances your belief that you can (and deserve to) reach your goals. You can create your reality with intentional thoughts to promote more positivity in your life.

Cultivating positivity that is directed the world around you will also make you a more vibrant and successful person, so you might want to consider dedicating a notebook exclusively to your feelings of gratitude. Each day, write down 3-5 things that make you feel happy to be alive, or that you appreciate. This process helps you to see your life in a better light, and works to override negative assumptions in your belief system.

Diary Entries

Another visualization tool that can help you believe in your capacity for change and success involves writing short stories or diary entries that describe how your life will be when you achieve your goals. You can treat this exercise just like you would a creative visualization meditation, documenting every little detail that makes your imagined future seem acutely real.

You can also use your diary or dream journal to “reframe” your daily experiences, taking as many useful lessons and positive messages from them as possible. By concentrating on creating a happy present experience, you also teach yourself to expect the most from your future.

Dream Checks

Although you might immediately connect dream checks with finances, the truth is that you can apply them to any goal. The idea is to have a self-written check that is made out to you and clearly states what you want to achieve (whether that is to possess a set amount of money, to land that new job, find the ideal partner or merely a happier state of mind). As with the other items mentioned above, place the check in a prominent location and look at it as often as possible.

Painting

Even those who don’t think of themselves as skilled artists, can find it surprisingly impactful to create art that visually represents dreams. Let your imagination tell you how to combine colors and shapes that remind you of the life you want to live, and place your painting in a place that encourages frequent reflection.

source:http://www.thelawofattraction.com/visualization-tools/